What is pre-cana? (READ ON CAREFULLY)?

It is my understanding that pre-canna is to teach couple how to communicate with each other; but don't couples do that now before reaching that point in their life?

I mean when you date someone you talk to each other and isn't that a form of communication, that leads to knowing each other which in turns leads to marriage; am I missing something here with pre-canna?

What is pre-cana? (READ ON CAREFULLY)?
Pre-Cana is the Church's way of trying to stem the growing tide of divorce. Since you were Catholic, you understand why divorce is considered something that needs to be overcome.



Communication is more than talking - two people can talk without ever really listening to each other. You would hope that, before considering marriage, partners in a couple would be able to connect on a deep and intimate level. Unfortunately, many don't.



The communication portion of Pre-Cana involves asking questions that may not have been asked. It's not enough to say "I'm Catholic" but really does one of the engaged have a serious disagreement with Catholic teaching? Have the couple talked about things like birth control (and really thought about the implications), child discipline, careers, and more importantly what they hope to put into and get out of the marriage.



There's also a lot of discussion of personality types. My wife and I found that many of our disagreements were simply based on personality - that I like to think out loud, while she journals before making a decision, and that I need to be around people in order to feel refreshed, while she needs quiet time. Knowing these differences and acting on them has allowed us to have a very happy life together.



I'd honestly recommend Pre-Cana for couples who committed to each other but not yet thinking about marriage. The benefits really are substantial because Pre-Cana brings up questions that you probably never thought about.
Reply:Pre cana is a Catholic course on marriage. It is not just on communication, but on the marriage as a whole. If you aren't Catholic, I wouldn't worry about it.